Time

Time is such a crazy thing.  When you are waiting for the end of the work day, it drags, but when you are spending time with a close friend, hours can pass in what feels like minutes.

It has been over 3 months now since my surgery, and I am down about 65 pounds.  I am less than 5 months away from my wedding, and exactly 7 days from completing my first 5K.  It is quite amazing to see how much my life has changed.

Today, I spent almost 3 hours outside working in the yard.  For those of you who do not actually know me, you would not imagine that is a big deal, but for this girl it really is.  I have always said that I don't do manual labor, but now that I am physically capable of doing it, I can see that it was simply a way to not being embarassed by my inability.  Sound strange?  Yeah, to be on this side of it, I can see it as well.  When you are over 330 pounds, standing at 5 foot 4, it is about coping.  Yes, the fresh air will do me good, I have heard it a million times, but the emotional cost of being seen as the weak link was simply unbearable.  It was much easier to just take myself out of the situation.

It feels good to live.  I listened to my app that was telling me how long it I was "walking" for, and even, and every 5 minutes that passed, I had to smile to myself, because I was still okay.  I did not once have to sit down and rest, nor did I come up with an excuse to go inside and disapear.  Instead, I walked from once side of the house to the other, dragging branches.  All in all, I walked over 3.1 miles before my phone died.

I have lost so many moments hiding from the things that I couldn't do. Now, I will do all that I can for every second that I can enjoy with my family, friends, and anything else that comes along in my future.

5 weeks

Yesterday was my 5 week surgiversary!  I bumped up my workout to 2 miles this week, plus have added on arms.  The surgeon said that I don't have any lifting restrictions and to continue doing as I am.  My official 1 month post op showed me down 35 pounds, but more importantly, my BMI is down by 7 points. 

I'm making progress everyday with my protein and liquid intake.  I have stopped taking one of my BP meds and cannot wait to keep getting more healthy!!!

Things are great, but may never be the same....

It is just under 7 months until my wedding day.  Plans are heavily underway, my dress is picked out, and all of our attendants are going to pick theirs out in just two weeks.  The problem is that I still cannot get over the fact that my friend that I considered to be my “person”, will not be involved in any of it.  Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful for all 5 of my ladies that will be standing up with me.  But, it breaks my heart that Kris will not be there with me.

I know, without a doubt that it was the right decision for me to take back the offer for her to be in the wedding.  I at no time, would be comfortable with making her choose between me and her religious views, though, I wish that I had a bit of a clue of those feelings before I put myself out there and  asked. 

Due to me being a pretty opinionated person, I have about 100 points that I could give to show her how my marriage is not wrong, but in the end, that would not be fair.  I do not want to convince someone that I should be allowed to be married, and within a few years, hopefully we will look back and wonder why same sex marriage was ever banned to begin with.

Due to the reaction of her, my outlook on being honest about my true self has changed.  There are times that I now wonder if I should come out at work, or if someone asks me if I am single, I hesitate on to be honest or not.  It is one thing when a person on the street is spewing hate, it is another when someone that you love says that you are not worthy of something that is standard in the straight world.

The planning will continue, and the wedding will be perfect, but it will not change that there is a whole left in my heart by Kris telling me that she does not believe in my marriage…in honesty, I hope that she comes to the wedding, if she chooses not to, I am not sure that there is any going back on that.

206 days until I will be joined forever to BJB!

4 week update

Things are going well, it is hard to believe that it has been 4 weeks since my surgery already.  I have been taking weekly photos, mostly just for myself so that I am able to see if there are any changes.  For the most part, I realize how much I look like a combintation of my parents.  When I look in the mirror, it is normally my mom looking back at me, but when I look at myself in pictures, it is always my dad.  And, it could be worse on both accounts!  :)

 Above are the pictures from the hospital, two weeks out, and three weeks out.  Below is the picture that I took today, 4 weeks out.  On Friday, (a month), I will check my measurements again and compare them to where I was pre-op!  I am most excited for that!

3 weeks to a healthier me!

It has been awhile since I have posted.  On 1/14/14, I had the vertical sleeve gastrostomy done.  It is more commonly known as “the sleeve”.  It is one of the more popular bariatric surgeries at this time, and the perfect one for me.  I already am anemic, so having the gastric bypass was out of the question, and the idea of having a foreign object in my body with the lap-band is also not appealing.  I started the process last May, when my weight continued to move up.  I have struggled with my weight since high school, and no matter what plan or diet I was on, the number never seemed to go down.

So, I am 3 weeks post-op today.  I have only good things to say about my surgeon, his staff, and the hospital.  I stayed two nights, even though my stubborn ass wanted to come home after just one night. I have had very little pain or nausea since I have been home.   I am trying to get in the habit of working out.  I am getting 30 minutes on the treadmill, most every day.  It isn’t much, but it is more than what I was doing a month ago. 

I have signed up to do the Maple Syrup 5K at the end of April.  I knew for sure that I wanted to do one, and that seems like the perfect one to do.   I have not been to a Maple Syrup since I was in high school.  I really don’t enjoy spending a lot of time in the town, because I have been so embarrassed of my weight and running into people that I know.  But it is a different me now!  And it isn’t about the weight that I have lost, it is about the fact that for the first time in a long time, I feel worthy.  There are many factors that lead to that.

I am now openly engaged to my love, and there is no need to hide.  I am working on being a healthier version of myself, and there is no need to hide.  I am a good person, and there is NO NEED TO HIDE!